Teen Coaching
A Deep Therapeutic Coaching Process For Teenagers, Parents, And The Entire Family
When puberty arrives, our beloved children begin to go through changes, sometimes facing many challenges. Adolescence shuffles the cards for them and for us as well. This process is difficult and can overwhelm them, and the truth is – it overwhelms us as well.
As parents, it’s the most painful thing in the world for us to see our children are in pain, especially when there may be some distance between us. Suddenly, they share less, listen to us less, and we feel a bit lost.
Often, professional support for our teenagers—or even for us as those who support them—can help with the various challenges they and we together experience during these years.
That’s why I’m here.
Why Is It So Important To "Coach" Puberty?
I believe it’s healthy and even critical for the development of teenagers aged 13-14 and older to have another adult in their lives (besides their parents and teachers) who can guide them through life. It’s important they have an adult, outside the family, who listens to them, looks them in the eye, and helps them discover their inner strengths, believe in themselves, and love themselves.
I love working with teenagers, and they enjoy working with me. I believe in empowering them from a young age to live the best life they can. I help them choose to be the brightest and fullest version of themselves, express their light, continue to smile, and listen to their hearts, all while fulfilling their responsibilities.
When I was a teenager and experienced depression, low self-confidence, and social difficulties, I needed this kind of support. This is why it’s important for me to pass it on.
What Is Possible In My Coaching Work With Your Teen?
On A Practical Level:
- They will learn important lifelong tools that aren’t taught in school: how to calm themselves in stressful situations, make decisions from intuition and heart instead of impulsively.
- They will gain tools to build inner strength and be less influenced by peer pressure.
- They will learn to connect with their life goals and how to achieve them
- They will improve their relationships with you, their friends, in romantic relationships, and even with their teachers
On A Mental And Emotional Level:
- They will experience unconditional love and acceptance, which will strengthen their feeling of being loved and good enough as they are—a feeling that is invaluable during a period where they constantly receive criticism from their surroundings and themselves.
- They will develop timeless tools and understanding of the mind and soul that will serve them now and throughout adulthood.
- They will experience less stress and more order in their lives.
- They will have a “big brother” and mentor who will be there whenever they need support—a priceless value during such a challenging time in the world.
And What Will You (The Parents) Receive?
- You will feel more at ease knowing your child is in good hands, receive guidance from me to help you cope with the challenges of your teenagers, and most importantly, you’ll be able to build a warm, loving relationship with them while maintaining the importance of setting boundaries.
Important To Remember:
Your teen doesn’t need to be in crisis to start therapy coaching with me(I combine both therapy and coaching approaches in my work). It’s possible and recommended to come beforehand, to prevent future crises, and to give tools for any scenario that may come. The process I do with teenagers, and the tools I give them, are meant to do exactly that, so they are as equipped as possible for life’s challenges.
Fulfilling Their Dreams
When we set goals at the beginning of our coaching process, we embark on our journey with a clarity and desire for your teen to achieve them. Then, I teach your teen how to make these goals come alive. How to dream big with their goals, how to find their motivation to take action to achieve them and how to achieve their goals and maintain a deep inner belief that they can fulfill their dreams, even when inevitable challenges arise.
Setting And Achieving Goals:
A good friend of mine, John, always says: “There’s nothing more powerful than a person who knows their goals in life and is willing to do anything for them.” I couldn’t agree more. There are teens who have forgotten how to dream and find it hard to believe in themselves or know what they want. In our process, I help them understand what they want in life, both in the short term (like the upcoming year) and in the long term (like in college and career). It’s not just about studies and work, but also: Who do they want to be? What kind of friends do they want around them? What are their values? How do they want to contribute to their environment and at home? Every process with teens begins by stopping and setting goals for what they want to happen, which gives us clarity about what they want to create.
Dealing With Peer Pressure:
Peer pressure makes teens do things they later regret. There’s pressure in friendships, in studies, in romantic relationships, and around what’s cool or not (like alcohol and smoking). Teens who are connected to their inner truth and have strong internal roots will not fall into peer pressure and will avoid making choices that aren’t right for them. In our coaching, your teen will learn to listen to their inner truth and be confident in who they are so that peer pressure doesn’t lead them to make decisions that aren’t right for them.
Creating Good Life Habits:
We are creatures of habit. Habits are everything. And the best time to instill positive habits is as early as possible. I teach teens in our coaching how to instill positive habits in their lives and the psychology behind it. Together, we create better habits for them—better learning habits, better sleep habits, and more. The result of these positive habits is an improvement in their life quality, no matter their starting point.
Build A Healthy Self Esteem:
Self-esteem is our foundation in life, like the legs of a table, like the roots of a tree. When we lack self-confidence, it affects how others treat us. When we have confidence, it helps us build respectful relationships with ourselves and others. Everything begins at a young age, and it’s better to build this confidence as early as possible. Many teens come to me not believing they are loved or good enough, which affects them socially. Others believe they aren’t smart or talented, which harms their studies, hopes, and aspirations. In the process, they learn to love and respect themselves and stop caring about what others think. Instead, they allow themselves full self-expression, gaining a healthy type of confidence where they can look everyone in the eye as equals.
Stress Reduction:
Anxiety is something many teenagers struggle with more and more, unfortunately. Anxiety before exams, about their future, their social status, how they look, or even about global warming and politics. In my process with teens, I teach them breathing techniques, intuitive writing, and tools to the mind which help significantly reduce their anxiety. They can become calmer, enjoy being children, and not carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. Most importantly, they can succeed in the areas they want without letting stress get in their way. Teens who have worked with me report feeling calmer, less anxious, and this impacts their exams, social relationships, and much more.
What Will Your Teenager Experience In Our Coaching?
How Does Our Process Start?
Our process begins with a conversation with you, the parents, and your child who wishes to begin coaching. After these conversations, we’ll decide together if we want to move forward, in what format the guidance will be, the duration, and the frequency of meetings. The journey is dynamic and evolves alongside their life journey. Their desires might even change along the way, and that’s okay—even good. The most important thing is that throughout this journey, they feel better, and supported, gain good tools, and grow in the direction they want in life.
The Additional Part Of Our Coaching Is YOU - The Parents:
You, dear parents, are also a part of our coaching. We will have two meetings as part of my process with your teen so I can also support you. You will be able to consult with me on anything you need guidance on. We will also communicate throughout the process, and I want you to know that I am here for you just as much as for your children.
This guidance is different from classic parental guidance. I will help you understand your teens’ inner needs. Together we will discover how to understand them on a deeper level beyond just the symptoms they display. We will work together to understand what is behind these symptoms. I will help you figure out how to meet their needs on a deeper level while also understanding what your teens are reflecting in you that triggers challenges, and how you can work on that within yourselves.
I will guide you in this process of discovery with your teens and yourselves. Our children are always a reflection, even for us, to see where we can grow. They have lessons to teach us, so this will be an amazing opportunity for growth and healing for you as well.
Creating A Safe And Loving Space For Them
During our journey, they will feel that they have a safe place with me to share everything, even the things they may not always feel comfortable sharing with you. This is completely normal—they may not always feel comfortable sharing everything with you, just like we didn’t share everything with our parents at their age!
They will feel that they have someone who is with them, like a “big brother,” who watches over them and guides them when needed. It’s an incredible sense of support to experience at such an age as they navigate various challenging and new situations.
It’s important for me to say that this process is first and foremost for your teens— Sometimes parents want to aim for certain goals or outcomes for what they want for their teens, but it’s important to note that the nature of the meetings will be determined primarily by their desires. Any goal you want to set will be in full transparency with your teen, and we will work on it only if they want it aswell for themselves.
That’s why I believe that successful coaching with teens is built on trust, communication, and mutual listening.
How to Know If This Process is Right for Your Teen:
- If they simply need a listening ear, someone to talk to and share with once a week, who will listen to them and give them advice.
- If they are experiencing an internal challenge in life: socially, or an internal struggle with themselves, and are looking for help.
- If they are struggling with anxiety and low self-confidence, and don’t know how to get out of it.
- If they have a natural interest in growing, learning, and developing important life skills that go beyond what school teaches.
- If they are interested in the mind and spirit and would be interested in learning more and fulfilling themselves fully while receiving amazing tools that will genuinely help them achieve what they want.
- If you (the parents) understand the importance of learning these essential tools that are not taught in school beforehand, before a crisis breaks out, and believe that your teens are also interested in receiving this kind of support.
- If your children have difficulties in studies, setting goals, knowing what their dreams are, and fulfilling themselves, and you understand that the true source of these difficulties is internal and want to provide them help.
- Maybe you also want to help them find a natural solution for ADHD without medication[Something I can talk about more with you on how].
How Will The Coaching Look? Additional Details You Should Know
✔Our meetings will take place in person at my clinic via Zoom.
- The sessions with your teens are 60 minutes long.
- The process also includes 2-3 meetings with you, the parents, lasting up to 90 minutes (the number of sessions depends on the length of the coaching relationship).
- During our process, both your teens and you will have virtually unlimited access to support from me via WhatsApp for any questions, challenges, or anything else you need.
The length of the process, the frequency of meetings, and the cost depend on the needs of your teens. I create tailor -made coaching programs based on needs, so after speaking with you and your teen, I will be able to determine which process to propose that suits him or her, and I will provide the details accordingly ❤️. Typically, I start a process with teenagers that lasts 3 months with weekly or biweekly meetings and continue from there as needed 🙏.
If you have additional questions and wish to consult
You can write to me on any subject and I will answer as soon as possible
And What If Your Teen Isn’t Interested In Recieving Help?
Sometimes after the initial meetings, before starting a process together, we discover that they do not want to receive help. In these cases, if you are open to it, I conduct a deep personal process with you, the parents, where we work together on the inner world within you to deal with the challenges that your child is bringing up.
From my experience working with parents, when parents face challenges with their children, it’s because their children reflect something in them that they are challenged with. I have seen time and again how when I work with the parents to heal and find acceptance within themselves for what their child reflects – their relationship with the children changes. Sometimes, the child themselves changes their behavior because it was merely a reflection of an internal challenge of the parents themselves.
This Is Not The Typical Kind Of Parent Guidance (Though It Includes That As Well)
It’s about internal work and taking deep responsibility as parents. Seeing and discovering what lessons your children have come to teach you. What do your children mirror you to see inside yourself and doing inner work to find inner peace and learn these lessons your children have come to show you.
In this way, your relationship with your children will change completely, and the changes will be much deeper than typical parental guidance that only focuses externally on the child. This is not parental guidance that will only provide you with external tools but will give you an internal understanding of what bothers you and what you would like to change, first within yourself – and from there, you can address it.
What Do People Have To Share About Working With Me?
Frequently Asked Questions
What Is Your Experience Working With Teens?
I have been working with teenagers since I was 18, having worked as a private tutor for 5 years with private students and youth centers, teaching hundreds of different teenagers. I learned their way of thinking far beyond learning. We talked about their lives, their fears, stress, low self-confidence, and their challenges. I learned what difficulties they need help with beyond the academic world. Since 2021, I have been working with teenagers using therapeutic and personal coaching approaches, and I have worked with dozens of them in this way. I have seen them change patterns of anxiety, stress, and self-confidence, learn to love themselves, and even guided some of them all the way through college. I have also learned a unique coaching approach tailored for youth at the “Youth Coaching Institute” which you can read more about here.
What Are Your Qualifications And Therapeutic Approach?
You are welcome to read more about my qualifications, my approach, and my journey here
Is There A Difference Between How You Work With Teenagers Compared to Adults?
Yes and no. I find that teenagers are not always ready to learn all the tools I teach adults, and they also don’t need always them. Typically, my work with teenagers is lighter, involves more conversations, walks outside, and sometimes even games. Through all these interactions, I teach them various tools, laugh with them a lot, and talk to them at an eye level, not as an adult who thinks they are above them. Through this, we also do very deep internal work for inner transformation. Sometimes there are teenagers for whom I see it’s more appropriate to work with them just like I work with adult clients in the clinic, and then we mainly work that way.
Do You Also Work WIth Children?
Sometimes. I have worked with two very young teenagers aged 12, and also with a child aged 9 and 8, but that is all my experience so far. I do believe I have something unique to offer to working with children and in that space, so I am open to trying. In general – if your children are not yet teenagers, I believe that a lot of the most positive impact on them will happen if I work with you, the parents. Therefore, if you do want support for your child, the coaching process will be most effective if we integrate more sessions that I do only with you, for your internal work, something that can greatly impact the child. When you learn to be calmer, happier, and more loving towards yourself and your environment and live with more integrity within yourself – it will impact your children most effectively.
